Like any other big life changes, redundancy can be very challenging. It’s difficult for the person who is becoming redundant, and it can also have a knock-on effect in your relationships, whether with your partner, your family, or for your close friendships.
Redundancy can be stressful for lots of reasons. It can mean a change in routine, and it often comes with a loss of income. These issues can put strain on relationships, so it’s important to have open and honest discussion with the people who might be affected.
First, if you are the person who is going through a redundancy, it’s important to recognise that redundancy is not your fault. There is nothing you could have done to prevent it. All you can do is face the challenges ahead. Accept how you feel and take care of your own emotional well being – we have more information about support here.
Acceptance is key
If you have a partner who is becoming redundant, try putting yourself in their shoes as much as possible. Show that you know what they are going through and offer your support. Try to keep discussions about money, family, and other issues calm and on topic. Try talking in situations where you're both facing the same way – in the car, on a walk, or even on the couch. Share the load. As a couple, it is important to recognise that redundancy is a loss for the family. You may have to shelve plans, whether they are big ones like buying a new house or smaller ones like going on holiday. Don’t forget to consider what opportunities you might have too, like being able to spend more time together.
Start making plans for the future. This could include drawing up a new budget, making plans to work out things like benefits and redundancy pay, and planning how to find a new job. Working on these new plans together can be a bonding experience and remind you and your partner that you are in this together.
Don’t be afraid to seek support. There is no shame in asking for help.
Click here to visit Relate - the UK's largest provider of relationship support.
Click here to visit the NHS site for support with financial problems and relationships.